Satan is picking away at me lately; picking at me in one of the most unlikely areas of faith in my life. My conviction that courtship is the only manner to raise my daughter to understand God's plan for marriage. I (and my husband) have studied this area inside-out and sideways. I wrote an allegorical story based on my studies and understanding. However, since my daughter is only 9 years old, I really did not think there would be trials and temptations over this conviction for several more years yet.
I was wrong.
I am tempted to despair as I watch yet another young woman at church give herself away to an unqualified young man. This young woman expressed a desire to study and grow in Christ. She proclaims salvation in clear, honest declaration. She has seen God work in her life in personal ways. Unfortunately, she does not have parents to lead and encourage her in remaining pure for marriage and she is slowly slipping into a self serving relationship with a young man who has absolutely no interest in God.
Are there young men out there that actually deserve these young women!? Are there parents out there who are raising their sons and daughters to follow God's plan for choosing a marriage partner AND remain pure until that person is found!? Must these beautiful and pure young women settle for average (and, quite frankly, useless) men?
We have several other young woman in our church who are maintaining their conviction for 'courtship'. They are succeeding with strong parental support and leadership. They have no men to choose from for their futures. I don't think any of us can fully understand the frustration they must feel as they keep their hearts and minds open for the young men God would have them take as husbands, all the while watching other acquaintances and friends give into the worlds way of dating/marriage.
If there are no young men being raised to be godly husbands and fathers for this current generation, where will my daughter find a husband when she is ready? When we pray for her future husband, are praying in vain?
No. Get behind me Satan. I refuse to allow the world to break my faith. There is a limit to my influence with other people's children, but I will continue to stand on the truths that God has shown me in His Word. I will continue to pray for those young women who are also standing faithful on their convictions and look forward to the blessing of seeing God work in their lives.
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1